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A Good Old Lesson!

sovannarithlim — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 04:23:03 +0000

We people never learn, do we? Same unfortunate things happen again and again, yet we don’t seem to notice they will repeat. Some would say ‘It’s just another day of bad luck’. I’d say we don’t consider our lessons learned seriously enough just to help us avoid them from repeating.

I just had my car’s mirror stolen a few days ago. I can’t say I never knew that would happen some day as I had never cared to install such a protecting device as the mirror frame. And yeah I can’t say I had been sure that the mirror would never be stolen. But now it happens! It upsets me, of course. There’s nothing I can do to get it back without paying, though. But I can say something about it–it’s a good lesson (from which we would probably not learn, again!).

Last year I had my laptop computer stolen. Similarly, if I had paid enough attention to lesson learned this unfortunate event wouldn’t have taken place.

I just wish I was more considerate about keeping my belongings in the safe environment. Now I hope this good old lesson of mine would be the last unfortunate thing I encountered.

Don’t leave your belongings unattended, People!

Hello world!

sovannarithlim — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 04:00:44 +0000

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St. Friends!?

sovannarithlim — Mon, 04 Dec 2006 07:14:02 +0000

St. FRIENDS!?

Sam and Tom have been close friends since high school; they have been helping each other all along when either one of them is facing troubles.

One day, Sam was doing his chemistry homework when he came to the most difficult part he could not solve it. Grabbed the phone next to him, he dialed Tom.

“Hi, Sam! What’s up, man?” asked Tom immediately, who was busy fixing a tape recorder for his brother, when he answered the call.

“Yeah… I have here this chemistry exercise from Professor Jane,” Sam replied frankly. “But it seems I can’t get through it for her this evening. Do you think you can come and give me a hand for this?”

There was pause before Tom said reluctantly with some crew drivers in his hand, “Well… I’m afraid I’m stuck with this fixing. Can I come this evening, after I finished this?”

“It’s fine… I’ll have to do it all by my own then” ……toood….toood……toood [phone disconnected] Sam replied and ended the call.

“Hello? Sam…?”

Now what? What’s going to happen to them next?

This dialog is a typical case, and such similar events may be happening every time to every one of us.

Sam and Tom were not that good, close friends any more. They simply saw each other when they saw each other. Fewer talks ever happened between them, no more good time.

If I may, I’d ask, Is this really necessary for them to be like this? Is it Sam’s fault? Or it’s Tom’s? Or theirs? And if I have to answer, I’d say it was not their fault—not Sam’s nor Tom’s.

Sam was asking for help from Tom, who Sam surely believed could help him out. Tom decided not to go at that time simply because he’s fixing the tape recorder for his brother, which may be very important. We don’t know.

However, both Sam and Tom were not what I would call St. friends—be Sincere and Trust.

Sam was Sincere, of course. He was asking for Tom to help him with the work he really could not do, but Sam did not Trust Tom. He may not perceive that what Tom was working might be important to Tom. What Sam was thinking was probably that Tom should be able to come and help him out, since Tom is supposed to be so for Sam.

For Tom, on the other hand, he may also be Sincere, but we don’t really know for sure. And like Sam, Tom may not Trust Sam enough that Sam really needed his help, at that time. It appears that Tom did not see the importance of the “help” Sam was asking for.

They are thus not St. Friends.

It’s quite easy to see the overall picture of this situation, for both sides of it (Sam’s situation and Tom’s situation) were illuminated for you. You know quite sure what Sam was doing and why he called Tom to ask for help. You also know what Tom was doing and why he refused to come right at that time.

But it’s surely not easy to see the overall picture of the ‘real’ situation, your real situation which you could only see from one side, from your only side, obviously.

Imagine you are in a situation that you are asking your friend for help. I’m sure you’ll be sincere, but when your friend tells you he/she couldn’t come and help you, do you Trust your friend for what he/she told you? Do you Trust your friend who does not come and help you when you really need him/her to help? Perhaps, not! You may not trust him, simply because you need his/her help.

Then what I would tell you is: be a St. Friend! Be Sincere and Trust your friend more!

Your friend may really can’t come and help you right at the time you want him/her to come.

Imagine you are in a situation that you are asked by your friend for help—a kind of help that you can do for him/her, regardless of any constraints. Check yourself if you are really sincere when telling your friend you can’t come and help him/her out. In such a situation, a person tends to be more Insincere than Sincere, of course, simply because they would opt out from involving the task. But more importantly, do you Trust that your friend is really having troubles and need your help? Just like your friend who asks for help and who may not trust you when you tell him/her you can’t come and help, you would have a feeling that your friend may not really need your help. But the reverse is more the truth.

Your friend may really need your help and you really can help him/her. That’s why your friend calls you.

Then what I would tell you is: be a St. Friend! Be Sincere and Trust your friend more!

This particular speech of mine was inspired by my own experience with one of my friends, and I’d like to delicate this speech to him.

Good evening!

Interesting news I find

sovannarithlim — Sat, 04 Nov 2006 06:44:07 +0000

Updated:2006-11-01 13:32:46

Asian Charity Threatens Jolie With Lawsuit

Reuters

PHNOM PENH (Nov. 1) – A Cambodian charity threatened
Wednesday to sue actress Angelina Jolie for breach of contract,
saying the Hollywood star had reneged on a promise to give $1.5
million over five years to wildlife conservation.

However, Stephan Bognar, the Cambodia-based head of the
star’s Maddox Jolie Pitt Project, said the relationship with
Cambodian Vision in Development (CVD) had ended amicably in
December because their aid work was "moving on to a new level."

"Angelina and I will be unveiling our new program and
commitment to Cambodia in about a month," Bognar told Reuters
from the western town of Battambang.

Much of the organization’s work would center around
community development, rather than wildlife conservation, he
said.

Besides accusing Jolie of breaking funding promises, CVD
head Mounh Sarath said his organization had taken exception to
reported suggestions from Jolie’s lawyer that CVD had
misappropriated some of her donations and was considering a
libel action.

"I have been asking Jolie and her lawyer to give me an
appropriate answer, but so far no answer," Mounh Sarath told
Reuters from Battambang.

"Now I give her one week and if there is still no answer I
will a file suit in the local court of Battambang."

The Oscar-winning actress, who adopted a Cambodian son,
Maddox, in 2002, was granted special citizenship of the
war-scarred southeast Asian nation last year in recognition of
her environmental contributions.

In 2003, Mounh Sarath said Jolie had paid out $350,000 to
kick off a long-term project to set up a 20,000 hectare (50,000
acre) wildlife sanctuary in a jungle-clad area once controlled
by Pol Pot’s ultra-Maoist Khmer Rouge.

It is not clear how much more money was paid out.

Another Achievement of Mine

sovannarithlim — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 10:00:20 +0000

Here we go! I’ve passed my very final exam which grants me my MA degree; I have to write up a one year research thesis, though.
But I do feel I have stepped up onto another stage of my competitive life in this world.
It’s really challenging for me, and of course for others, living in such modern world. But what I could say to thee is that "Never Give Up. No Matter What May Cost You!"

To my students either in or outside Cambodia now, I’d like to comment that Life is such an interesting journey with obstacles being stepping stones and compasses to direct "us" to where we want to reach. Never give up, students!

To my friends, success is what we aim for but it is not always achieved. However, again, Never Give Up! Remember this: take actual actions if you really want to get what you want.

Have a nice day!

Great relief

sovannarithlim — Sat, 26 Aug 2006 06:15:34 +0000

Well…well today is my greatest relief I ever had.

Can’t image how better I feel after submitting all my final papers to my professors…Whoo…

Even happier when think of the time, it’s really flying. I’m done with all my academic work.

Although i still have one more year to go, I believe it’s not gonna be as tough as what I had the last one year.

My Budha bless me!

My Friend Froggy

sovannarithlim — Sun, 16 Jul 2006 11:05:47 +0000

Has..ha

Today I talked with a friend of mine (I called him Froggy).

He is so negative to the way people blog. He said it’s no use doing so.

I, of course, defended what he said. We had a rough talk, but it was just

what friends have words with each other.

He is so sensitive, anyway. I’ll better convince him more that having blog or being

a blogger, one can have some fun!!!

Impulsive or Decisive?

sovannarithlim — Fri, 30 Jun 2006 06:15:09 +0000

Impulsive or Decisive?

I am 24 years old and already married with a 9 month old daughter. Guess when I got married! It may be quite amazing and surprising to most of the men that I got married when I was only 21, and my wife was one year younger than me. How young we were!

When ever I have my friends and strangers learn that I am a husband and now a father too, they always ask me the same question Why are you so early?

Until now do I find that such question is not easy to answer. As I tell them I love her and cannot wait for some other years, or as I would tell them that we may be pre-assigned for our destiny, it is not going to make sense for them, somehow. See how difficult it is to explain why I got married at such early age.

Whatever it is, I believe in one thing — that I am ready! At the time I decided to get married I knew that I was (and would be) ready to be a good husband, and until last year I knew I was ready to be a good father. And of course I am now, although some things has made some changes to my decision. But I am ready to take responsibility for my marriage life and for my daughter’s future.

I would say age has nothing do with a marriage life, but what counts is the ‘self’ — which to me is the internal working drive of a man. See how many bachelors are still living alone either enjoying or not enjoying their condition. I do not think they cannot find the women of their types nor do I believe they could not afford the marriage, but what I deem is that they may not be ready to be the ‘other half,’ being the significant other for others whilst lots and lots of responsibility are requiring and facing towards them to take.

I am not, however, convincing you to marry someone at the age I got married, but as you can see if you want to get married, be decisive not impulsive. That’s all for now.